NLP Training Is It Right for You?

I am a Certified Practitioner and Licensed Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). Learning about NLP has been one of the most important educational experiences of my life. It helped me to achieve great strides in my career and also helped inspire me to start my own business as a life coach and hypnotherapist.

So I’m proud of what I’ve been able to accomplish with the help of NLP training, but I think there are a lot of misconceptions that people might have regarding NLP and what it’s really about. If you’re interested in learning more about NLP, then where should you start? What is NLP, and what “type” of NLP is really right for you?

What is NLP? Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a rapidly growing field of study, based on psychological principles and scientific research into how the human mind works, that is helping us to understand communication, human interactions and personal development in new ways. NLP is used in a variety of professional disciplines including counseling, life coaching, hypnotherapy, massage therapy and sales – any kind of work that is involved with improving human performance, enhancing communication and creating more productive human interactions.

Is NLP manipulative or deceptive? Not if you work with an effective, ethical NLP trainer. The truth is, NLP is simply a way to improve your personal communication skills. NLP can give you an expanded awareness of how you communicate, how people respond to you, and how you can gain more control over your subconscious communications and influences on other people. Just like learning how to make eye contact and give a firm handshake, NLP training can help you to improve your personal presentation and cultivate better rapport with the people you meet. It’s a personal development tool – it teaches you how to model the behaviors and attitudes of successful people, and bring more success into your own life.

How can I find an ethical NLP trainer? There are people online peddling NLP training who claim that they can show you how to use NLP to “trick” people into doing what you want. Some of these trainers have a rather deceptive, dubious tone to their marketing – it’s like they’re promising to give you magical shortcuts. Be skeptical of those types of claims. NLP can make a big difference in your life, but it’s not “hocus pocus.” Just like any other self-improvement activity, you have to put in the time and the effort to really get good at it! Look for a certified NLP trainer who can prove that he/she is accredited from a reputable NLP training institute. Most of all, you need to trust your gut instincts. If someone doesn’t seem like they’re “on the level,” or you don’t quite trust them or don’t feel like their style of NLP practice is right for you, go check out some other NLP trainer.

The right NLP trainer will help you understand the principles of NLP in a way that aligns with your goals and your preferred style of work. As an example: Steven Lyles is a Certified Coach, Consulting Hypnotherapist, and Certified Practitioner and Licensed Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming. He trains and coaches sales professionals and business executives on how to improve their communications skills and boost their profits, while also leading more positive, fulfilling lives.

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Civil Rights Lost Again – Arizona

Unknown to the American Public, the 1st Amendment of the U.S. Constitution, (freedom of speech), along with other rights, were violated by Judge Karen Potts of Arizona, causing financial damage to homeowners throughout the US. A former supporter of Habitat for Humanity and other organizations for fair treatment of defendants, Potts operated outside her judicial authority by supporting mortgage fraud, and aided and abetted in grand theft of the American dream.

Everyone in the US knows what has happened in the mortgage system, first it was the recession caused by uninsured subprime mortgages and now due to mortgage fraud – foreclosures are being frozen by lenders – everyone knows this – except for Judge Potts. Here’s what happened:

On that fateful day, Potts threw the legal Mexican American immigrant family of Isai C. and Rosa M. Garcia and their children into the streets, despite a challenge to the Eviction and mortgage and foreclosure process filed in her own courthouse.

This was the first ever Arizona Eviction jury trial, Judge Potts refused to allow a jury of peers. All Hispanic jury applicants were tossed out, a highly intelligent European immigrant who spoke four languages as well, eliminated. A jury of equals to her meant 1 white man and the rest were white women, no equals. One of the women had a relationship to an Eviction company. This was a jury of peers in her Judge Potts eyes. Yes, lady justice is blind and more.

Rumor has it that in pretrial, questions to be asked were discussed between Potts, the Plaintiff Attorney Hebert and Defense Attorney Loeb, but no defendant questions were permitted by Potts. Interestingly enough, in this case there was NO plaintiff to be questioned by defense council, none appeared in court – only plaintiff’s attorney (plaintiff was US government, Freddie Mac) and a process server. All 59 questions of defense attorney were all denied by Potts. Judge Potts limited questions and evidence, making it difficult for Attorney Loeb to present a case.

What wasn’t permitted in court was critical: In August 2005, there was an illegal trade of the family’s property through MERS to another investor, and a Servicer, no legal transfer of documents between banks and beneficiaries, no notifications. By using illegal notary transactions by secretaries of the Foreclosing Trustee, and others notarizing each other’s signature they created an illegal transfer. These illegal ‘Robo Signers’ are part of what was determined weeks ago to be illegal. Still Potts allowed forged documents, not even mailed by certified mail, to be used to foreclose. The Federal government has frowned on it – but Judge Potts, refused to support fairness and participated in the foreclosure fraud by not allowing it to be questioned in this case. This judge went beyond the law, and violated Uniform Commercial Code, and might lead to a destruction of capitalism in the US.

This Robo Signing, is absolute forgery, fraud were never brought up, the jury was not permitted to hear a single word about it. Potts protected the former administration’s home mortgage fraud and permitted no evidence on record for the defendant. Her constant threats of admonishment and possible jail time to the defendant’s attorney (for not laying down and playing dead) was more her style. Perhaps, justice needs to be mute. In Pott’s case it would serve justice.

The Jury was judicially swayed in favor of the Plaintiff by Potts’ direct instruction to them to find the Plaintiff was the legal owner of the property, even though it acquired Title illegally. This deserves removal from the bench. The court reporter laughed and giggled as the Judge yelled at the Defense Attorney.

The entire American Dream is collapsing due to the former administration and its non-regulatory stance on the housing and home mortgage industry. Over 100,000 mortgages are currently in review, and over 85 million more homes are at risk right now.

Judge Potts, herself, just violated judicial code and didn’t allow a fair trial. She allowed abuse of judicial discretion and created a biased hearing prejudiced in favor of Freddie Mac. It appeared that she didn’t know how to run a jury trial. She constantly was jumping on and admonishing the defense attorney, not permitting questions or witnesses – she was stomping on the civil rights of the defendants and all U.S. citizens. She should be subjected to Judicial Review for not allowing evidence, and taken off the bench.

A review of the transcript of this trial absolutely will remove anyone’s doubts. And in the meantime, a family is set to be homeless at Judge Potts’ wrongful instructions to the jury. The 911 attack took away many civil rights of American Citizens. Judge Potts just took away the rest – is there any American Citizens willing to fight for the American Dream?

From notes taken from Case # CV2010-090145 (Maricopa County, Arizona) 10/14-15/2010 Reported by John W. of ChallengeYourLender.com a company who teaches homeowners their rights and how to challenge mortgage fraud.

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Save Your Marriage – Improve Your Attitude

An attendee at one of our seminars wrote for Question/Answer time: My spouse is always angry or unhappy so much of the time that it’s rubbing off on our kids – even the one who used to be all sunshine. Nothing they or I do pleases her. Frankly, I don’t know if I can stand much more of this. I’d like to save my marriage for the kids’ sake, but I’m wondering.

Being a cranky, touchy person becomes a habit, don’t you think? There are both men and women who make it a habit of complaining about their spouses. Most people are what they have been becoming since childhood. They don’t see themselves that way; they excuse their behavior by saying that they are just being realistic, so they see no need to change. It is miserable to live with, we agree. However, Mr. or Mrs. Negative can change. We’ve spoken of this is our save-your-marriage material at our Love Relationship Headquarters. We talk about cranky, critical, ornery people, because we run across them in our counseling.

If you’ve got a Mrs. Cranky wife, we taught our client and students (not wanting to point out the man because his wife was there with him), teach your children the better way by being cheerful and positive regarding everything. Refuse to join the Forces of Negatives. Find a positive to bring up for every negative.

One way is: use a strategy of replacing a positive with a negative. It is a game you can play with your children. “Okay, Kids, it’s pouring down rain and you can’t play outside. Think of 3 reasons why you should be happy about that.” [Suggested answers: Rain helps food grow so we can eat; Rain is God's provision for keeping the earth green and beautiful; You (or we) can pop corn and play a table game inside.]

When it’s raining is just one idea. There are literally thousands of ways you help your children to think in positive ways. Try it for a few months, and if your wife doesn’t catch the spirit by then, tell her that you are concerned about her health. When she asks you why, you can say, “You’re so pretty when you smile. And you seldom smile anymore. The kids are noticing it, too. I want you to be happy. I’ve been reading about that. Maybe you aren’t getting proper rest. Or you may be suffering from low blood sugar or hormones that are out of synch. Whatever it is, I’ll do everything I can to help. It wouldn’t hurt for both of us to have a thorough checkup.”

Be prepared! She may meet your efforts indignantly with a barrage of things you should be doing yourself, or the kids should be doing, so she CAN smile more. It this occurs you will need to control your children’s response. Otherwise, cart her off to a medical doctor who can look for hidden causes behind the sourpuss attitude.

One thing she definitely needs is to read our material and books written just for women at Love Relationship Headquarters. We have a bunch there for you, too, Sir…material that will guide you into being a much better husband and father. Get her – and you – started on them now and you won’t have to write us for help in the future. We want you to keep your marriage strong. Save your marriage is our motto.

Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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Does Marrying A Millionaire Work?

One of the most successful businessmen in the world is notoriously unsuccessful at marriage. Donald Trump has consistently failed at marriage while he excels at making money and building his empire. He only cares about saving his relationship with what he truly loves – building, acquiring things, and accumulating riches. Brilliant in business, he has built a financial empire worth billions despite several bankruptcies.

It’s interesting to us, as marriage and relationship advisers to note that, whereas Trump has been immensely productive in buying and selling hotels, casinos, clubs and almost anything else you can name, he’s been a flop when it comes to producing a lasting marriage with a woman. He’s managed to sire a passel of kids, including at least one, at the time of this writing, with his latest wife who is 24 years younger than he; and he has more than a few grandchildren.

As we noted, his passion is business and making money – not making wives happy. He knows that his imbalanced passions are an issue: “I just know it’s very hard for them [his ex-wives] to compete because I do love what I do. I really love it.”

Sounds a little like talk show host, Larry King, doesn’t it? King has actually surpassed Donald Trump in numbers of wives. He’s on his 8th marriage that’s shaky at best according to latest reports. There is no evidence of his trying to save any of those marriages (although latest reports say he and his wife have decided to make a go of it). Trump, on the other hand, despite any other liaisons he’s had, is only on his 3rd legal hookup at the marital altar.

Are they happy men? Well, think about it. Collectively, these two guys have had 9-10 divorces. I don’t think anyone would say that all those breakups were friendly. In fact, if we were bettors, we’d wager that none of them were. Was the money and the power worth all the pain the wives, and possibly the husbands suffered – the anger, hurt, and frustration that resulted because neither one of these men was willing to do what was necessary to save at least one marriage? We don’t think so. Have they hardened their hearts so much that they just don’t care? Even if their wives were the ones who dumped their husbands, the way the men have conducted their lives has begged for trouble.

People like Trump and King may look happy on the outside (even though when you look at Larry Kings face during one of his shows, he doesn’t seem happy there either). But if The Donald was truly happy deep down inside, and were at peace with himself and God, why wouldn’t half a dozen successful hotels or casinos be enough? That would leave him time to concentrate on enjoying a loving, close marriage that he would do anything to preserve, and he’d still have some energy left over for a couple more hotels or resorts.

Why would King, who is at the top of his game as a TV talk show host, and given his abominable record as a husband, fool around with his wife’s sister instead of making his present marriage work? An even better question is what kind of example to these men think they are setting for their children and grandchildren?

We submit that these guys are not at peace. They are replacing real lasting loving relationships with power and money.

We have no idea what’s in their hearts, but a question in the Bible seems to ring loud and clear: What does it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses his own soul? And, we might ask, what does it profit a man (or woman) if he becomes rich and loses the one he promised to love the rest of his life? We personally think that is too high a price to pay.

Although you aren’t The Donald, or probably don’t have the power and reach of The King, have you found yourself married to something else other than your husband or wife? It could be a job, your friends, sports, gambling or even alcohol that takes you away from your love and your family. It mean more to you than the one to whom you pledged your life? Before you say no, ask yourself this: How many times in the last month have I chosen to spend time at work [or whatever it is in your life], rather than being with my spouse? If the answer is regularly, then you are on your way to weakening or destroying your marriage, rather than saving it; even if, on the surface, everything seems fine.

If you or the one you love has chosen something else over your marriage, there is still hope. Your marriage can be saved! At Love Relationship Headquarters, there are answers. Your marriage not only can be rescued, but it can be a joyful, love-filled ongoing affair, whether you have money or not, that doesn’t need to end. We show you how to mend, keep, and enjoy your relationship with your husband or wife. The result? The type of happiness that everyone wants.

Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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Bad Guys – Good Guys

I was reading in an advice column recently the lament of a man who asked, “Why do girls go for the bad guys?” He was a good guy, according to what he said. He treated women politely, brought them flowers and generally respected them. Then along comes a charmer who does just the opposite and wins the girl the good guy is hoping to attract.

It may take a different approach and a different set of standards for a man to look at a different type of woman. The standards of most women do not include a rude, ornery vulgar man who treats them like dirt. Only very insecure females who are a bit on the dense side would want that. Or they’ve been watching too many nasty guy movie characters like Hugh Jackman’s in Australia. Even if they find low class guys that exciting before marriage – if they manage to get them to the altar, which is doubtful – they’ll soon regret it. The excitement soon wears off and marriage becomes a nightmare. Furthermore, these kinds of guys usually want to save their marriages only to keep their women under their control. [youtube:2VubncyYC9Y;Isn\'t it time to [link: Save Your Marriage];http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2VubncyYC9Y&feature=related]

The majority of women would die for men who don’t leer, pinch and act lecherous toward them. There is a greater chance of having a good husband if you start with a good guy. A good guy like that doesn’t unceremoniously grope for his woman’s breasts or between her legs when he pops through the door. If it is time to have sex, and he treats her with love, compassion and respect, and coax her passion to rise gradually. All of the rude and disrespectful things he leaves to the idiots and cavemen. The good guy usually is very much into preserving his marriage, too.

And frankly, a woman who has an ounce of sense in her body will shun the jerk and go for the guy with class, even if he isn’t all that good looking. A woman may find that she is being left by the bad boy she thought was so marvelous; or she might wish to dump him and discovers that’s not as easy as she thinks. Save your marriage? We’d say, get hooked up in a good marriage in the first place and you’ll want to save it. Already married to the bad boy? Then don’t wait until you get dumped to find a solution. We’ve got the stuff you need to help make things better.

Margaret Hardisty, International Bestselling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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Summary Of Corporate Speed Reading

The written word is everywhere. In todays fast-paced, get-it-done-yesterday world, being able to speed read “and remember what you read” is almost a matter of professional life or death. If your reading speed is more tortoise than hare, perhaps its time to look into a new way of reading.

Learn to speed read actually involves teaching your brain to read in a new way.

But wait! you say. It took so years to learn how to read before. I just dont have that kind of time.

Don’t fear! With our Speed Read Complete Corporate edition, you will be able to double your reading speed in only an hour in the privacy of your own home or office! This time-tested method of teaching your brain to speed read has been taught in live seminars for decades all around the US and the ebooks have been translated into five languages.

Still unsure about signing up for an online speed reading course? Have you handed over hundreds of dollars before, only to read a few words a minute faster? With the Speed Read Complete course “including three ebooks as well as supplementary MP3 audio files which you can take anywhere” we guarantee you will be reading noticeably faster and comprehending more or every penny of your money back.

Start our Speed Read Complete Corporate course (a minimum of a sixth grade reading level is necessary) with the book Speed Reading in Only One Hour. Move on to our Complete Speed Reading Program: Corporate Version. In our course you will learn not only how to speed read, but also how to learn to control subvocalization, vary your reading speed, batch process, and important methods for positive thinking.

Not only will you learn to increase your reading speed, using our time-tested Speed Read Complete course, you’ll be able to increase your memory, recall, concentration, note taking, and more.

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You Are Forgiven Ryan

When he was presented to Hailey, Ryan knew that she was the one. She wasn’t as beautiful as a few he’d known, but that was all right. She was attractive, intelligent, and easy to get along with. She admired and respected him, too.

After they were married, she fulfilled his desires by presenting him with adorable children. He was a happy man. His desires, for the most part, had been met.

By the time the children were in their teen years, though, Ryan’s mind had begun to wander. Home had become bad in too many ways. His kids were noncompliant; he was experiencing financial woes, and he had no friends to tell of.

He wondered if some of his old girlfriends were still around – and available – and he started attempting to connect with them again. He also began flirting with various women at work. After a time, he scored and began an affair.

Someone told on him. It always happens, it seems. Hailey went through all the emotions that characterize the betrayed: horror, devastation, anger, self-pity, blame, fear, even hatred. She told Ryan to get out and never come back. His children abandoned him, too.

Ryan left, but in the months that followed, he suffered severely. He wasn’t interested in his lover any longer. He just wanted his family back. He went to a pastor and committed himself spiritually. That helped, but he would drive by his house frequently, tears flowing down his cheeks.

Finally, he began sending notes to Hailey, telling her what a fool he had been. He mailed her flowers. He wrote to the children, asking forgiveness.

Finally, he confronted Hailey face to face, fell on his knees and begged her to let him come back home. Hailey said, “No,” at first and then thought twice. He continued to talk and she said she’d think about it.

Weeks went by. Ryan prayed, waiting for her decision. The pastor prayed. One day Ryan received an invitation from Hailey to come for dinner. When he got there, a candlelit dinner and a romantic setting awaited him.

Hailey had planned to have the children stay at friends’ homes. “Dad and I have to talk about some things,” she said.

As Ryan stood staring at the arrangements she had made, hope raging in his heart, she held out her arms and he enfolded her in his, tears choking him.

“I forgive you, Ryan,” she said. “Just…please…I couldn’t handle your being unfaithful again.” That night, they made love in a way that they hadn’t experienced for years. The next day, Ryan moved back home.

A wise husband never quits treating his wife as a sweetheart. He does everything he can – on a daily basis – to make her feel loved, cherished and secure. He turns his sexual desires into lovemaking desires. He never ever considers having an affair or being disloyal in any way. If those thoughts come, he avoids them like poison.

A wise wife puts her husband first; children second. He is her king – she his queen – and she does everything she can to maintain that status on both sides. She meets his needs. She helps him do what is right toward her and in his life. She affair- proofs her marriage.

Both of them present a strong, joined, loving system of guidance and discipline for their kids who know, from their parents’ love for each other, that they are secure. Relationships stay strong and laced with love.

Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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Divorce – Marriage – Divorce – Marriage, Divorce, Divorce, Divorce

Some people feel that if they never live with someone outside of marriage, it’s okay to divorce if their expectations aren’t met and then get married to someone else. Why bother to save a marriage if the going gets hard and, heaven forbid, if I can’t have things my own way? When their second marriage does not work out they get another divorce and move on to the next failed attempt.

It’s kind of like looking for the Fountain of Youth to search for lasting happiness in that way. You will never find happiness by chance.

Certain celebrities are notorious because they’ve been married numerous times – like Elizabeth Taylor, a star of the past who was one of the most beautiful women of her time and played in many notable movies. Did she even try to save any of her marriages, even those through whom she had children? So maybe she did try but did any of the men she was married to?

We’ll give her this one: She always married her interests, rather than just living with them. Of course, that sometimes meant she had to snatch them away from their wives. At least that was true in at least one case when she lured singer Eddie Fisher away from his then wife, Debbie Reynolds, another actress.

It took years before she was out of the media spotlight for good. Taylor either has kept other liaisons secret or she’s changed her thinking where marriage is concerned. She reportedly has been living with a guy for a long time at the time of this writing but now, supposedly, is thinking she’ll take her 8th leap into matrimony.

Then there is the mixing up of marriage and lovers, all at the same time. The noted talk show host Larry King is the perfect example of this. Still married to Shawn Southwick in his 8th marriage, senior Larry supposedly has been having an affair with his sister-in-law, Shannon Engemann, for the past five years. Similar stories of the rich and famous abound. It’s got to be the rich and famous part of it where he’s concerned, wouldn’t you think? He certainly isn’t getting the women by his good looks. (The latest is that he and his wife have decided to save their marriage – possibly because of their two small children.)

Do you really think these stars who believe the can take whatever they want are really happy? Come on. We know better. Their happiness is momentary – situational. So, why aren’t their riches and beautiful partners enough? Why aren’t they joyful continually having one sexual partner after another? The reason is because the human being was created by God to be monogamous. Having sex with someone outside of marriage will always bring turmoil to the soul. Promiscuous sex messes lives up and statistics prove it.

Lasting happiness eludes such a person, celebrity or not. If these types of individuals are happy on earth by some quirk, they won’t be happy after they leave this earth. Everyone has to stand and account for their lives before God. Last time we checked, He made the rules. His rule tells you specifically not to covet your neighbor’s wife. We think that is pretty clear.

Last time we checked, He made the rules. The rule says, keep it inside marriage. To quote an old saying, hitch your wagon to a star – but not a star like those we’ve just talked about. Spiritually they are blind and their sojourn on earth, as wild and appealing as it may seem for the time, is very short. Instead, determine to make your present marriage superb. We show you how to do just that in our books and material at the Love Relationship Headquarters.

Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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Get Rid Of Jealousy

V:3 I’m jealous of my wife. There’s no reason for it. I know I’m going to lose her if I don’t quit.

Jealousy had gotten the best of Olivia. She wasn’t jealous of her husband, Gavin, but she was jealous of any woman who looked at him. Gavin’s comment to us was, “She’s even jealous when I play with the kids. Frankly, I just want to run, but I need to save my marriage for their sake. If I left, she’s do everything she could to keep me from seeing them.”

Olivia refused to go to a counselor or a psychologist, but she liked our books. Her husband Gavin hoped that we could help her make a change Gary was doing the same thing to his wife. Though she’d never been with anyone else, and although she made sure he was with her when she went anywhere and clearly was in love with the man – he was really jealous. It all came to a head when after church they got into a huge argument because she’d talked to a guy in their small group meeting. It didn’t matter that Gary had been there to see exactly what she had done. No, they hadn’t been talking about anything but the preacher’s morning message. Yes, when Gary walked up, she pulled him in close and put her arm around him.

Gary was doing the same thing to his wife. Though she’d never been with anyone else, and although she made sure he was with her when she went anywhere and clearly was in love with the man – he was really jealous. It all came to a head when after church they got into a huge argument because she’d talked to a guy in their small group meeting. Yes, Gary had been right there in the room. No, they hadn’t been talking about anything but the preacher’s morning message. Yes, when Gary walked up, she pulled him in close and put her arm around him.

Gavin let his imagination get the best of him. He started thinking of all sorts of things that his wife could have been talking about to the other guy during the first couple of minutes of conversation. He demanded to know exactly what had been said, why they were talking and what was said about him. His wife patiently answered the first few questions, but as Gary got angrier, she dissolved into tears, wondering what she had done to deserve this attack. She wanted to save their marriage, but this was so awful, she wasn’t sure any more.

Jealousy is not love. It is rooted in fear. Fear generates insecurity. Insecurity, in turn, results in possessiveness, and the need to control. Possessiveness and the need to control evidence themselves in jealous behavior. Jealousy will choke the life out of any relationship and can drive even the most devoted partner away, because it creates a prison – not just for the person who is jealous but his/her partner as well.

Although most jealous people don’t become abusers, some do. In 1984, a movie entitled The Burning Bed starred the late Farrah Fawcett as the battered wife of a jealous, controlling husband and startled the viewing world. In real life, rock legend Tina Turner, who left an abusive marriage, wrote the story of her miseries in I, Tina, from which the movie, What’s Love Got to Do with It? was made in 1993.

Gentle and levelheaded people can even be effected by jealous feelings. Their jealousy evidences itself in dependency. Others soon tire of their clinging and feel suffocated by their possessiveness, so they find excuses not to be around them. They, too, need lessons on how to save their marriages.

Jealousy can show up in the lives of people who otherwise seem strong and in control. They seem to have a need to fasten an iron grip on people, jobs, ideas and attitudes and tighten that grip if anything starts to slip. They can crush the life out of the people and projects they are associated with by smothering them. These people have to learn how to react properly if they want to preserve their position in life and save their marriages.

Even gentle people can be jealous if they are insecure and fearful. Their jealousy evidences itself in dependency. Others soon tire of their clinging and feel suffocated by their possessiveness, so they find excuses not to be around them. They, too, need lessons on how to save their marriages. You may struggle with distrust and envy of your siblings, your parents attention to others, and your friends. If you haven’t conquered the demon, you may be unkind toward your spouse’s relatives – especially your mother-in-law. You may even be envious of your husband’s or wife’s successes.

You can save your marriage. Go to www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com. Get rid of jealousy. Our marriage saving material is exactly what you need.

Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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Communication? He Doesn’t Even Know What It Is.

“I love my husband and want to share things with him; but he turns cold and refuses to listen or talk. Why?”

Consider the following if you are the non-talker and want to save your marriage. (If you are the talker, please feel free to give this to your loved one. No, don’t throw it at him/her… hand it over nicely.)

* Maybe you are angry at someone; or are just angry by nature and that’s your comfort zone… * Or you grew up in a home where they didn’t talk. * Or perhaps your mate is an overbearing personality and you feel you can’t get your ideas across… * Or maybe you just aren’t wired to talk… * Or you always end up being put down in a discussion so don’t want to risk it anymore * Or you feel regret about what you have done * Or you wanted to marry someone else way back when and it didn’t happen so you resent the one you are married to now… * Or you don’t want to accept the responsibility of supplying another’s needs * Or you enjoy aggravating or hurting others (you have a mean streak) * Or you are punishing your spouse for something * Or you don’t want anyone invading your private world. You are selfish

Ummmmmmmm – welllllllll – let me say this as nicely as I know how for the first 7 listed above – SO WHAT! And for the last 4 – GROW UP. This is not all about you. If you want to have a loving, giving, caring relationship, if you want to save your marriage, then do what you don’t want don’t need don’t care about and start talking. You have no excuse.

You will be blown away by the results. There is nothing better than communication with someone else who loves you, unless you’re arguing. If you argue more than talk, then get our books. We tell you how to have the right kind of argument.

We know of far too many marriages that couples felt weren’t worth saving because one person in the relationship wouldn’t talk or didn’t know how to talk. That’s why so much of our material at Love Relationship Headquarters, explains in more detail why some people won’t or can’t talk, why some people talk waaaaay too much, and why couples don’t understand one another.

Your relationship can be healed. It is far easier than you think. Go to http://www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com now and find out how.

Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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